I have a instance, with one person, which is I alone. I also don’t follow any instances. Thought it might be a good idea to ask people who they follow for a suggestion.
A free software to take back control of your videos
Peertube is an open, federated alternative to Youtube without advertising or tracking. On this site, you can find a good Peertube instance, with good rules, good moderation and most importantly a friendly community.